6 Signs That You’re in a Long-Term Relationship with a Filipina! (By a converted Englishman)

By Jonathan Howe September 22nd, 2014 Posted in Inspiration and Love Stories, Travel Blog 55 Comments

Being from the United Kingdom, you inevitably become accustomed to Western ways and of course, in turn, Western women.  

Kach and Jonathan - Pictrip pictorial in London

Having left Britain some time ago and has now been with Kach for almost two years, I thought I’d reflect on some of the finer points of being in a relationship with a Filipina and some of the personal changes you go through in the process.  I hope you enjoy the experience as much as I have!

Insane Hospitality

Villa Escudero Tiaong Quezon – Memorable Staycation with the Grandparents

Filipino’s are well-known for being some of the warmest and most welcoming people on the planet, and this part of the culture is starting to wear through your cynical and suspicious Western skin. You find yourself inviting complete strangers into your home and cooking them enough food to feed a small village for a week! Try the Kare Kare, it’s incredible!

Carnivore Heaven

One of the best things about the Philippines is the food.  The blend of Hispanic, Chinese and American cuisines has created a unique fusion of flavors that can’t be found anywhere else in the world.  The key ingredient of almost every meal is meat, no matter what time of day!  Deep Fried Pork with Deep Fried Beef and Deep Fried Rice (Kach’s Garlic rice!) has become your staple breakfast.  In fact, you have terrible mood swings if you haven’t eaten half a pig and a kilo of rice by 9 am!


We all love to shout out Bon Jovi’s Living on a Prayer with our friends when we’ve had a few drinks, but now you’ve reached a new level – The Filipino.  You can smell a microphone from a hundred meters away and will fight to the death for a can of Red Horse beer and the chance to sing Pusong Bato in front of fifty strangers!

The Bargain

Haggling is no longer something you do at markets for a bit of fun as you’re traveling around, for the satisfaction of getting a slightly reduced price on some tourist souvenirs.  Everything is now a potential discount, no matter how small.  You will happily spend half an hour trying to negotiate 5 cents off the price of an apple and openly celebrate your victory upon completion of the deal!

You don’t want the apple…It was never about the apple.

King in Your Own Home

It’s a well-trodden stereotype that Asian women treat their men like kings and this is certainly true of Filipinas.  However, let it be crystal clear that this is not the same as subservient; far from it as we will shortly find out.  You have however become accustomed to lovingly prepared home-cooked meals every day and regular massages – not because you asked, or she feels she has to, but because she wants to.

A Woman Scorned

As touched upon in the previous point, don’t think for a second that the loving and caring nature of the Filipina means that she will tolerate you being a shit boyfriend.  As a seasoned veteran, you have long-since learned the dire consequence of crossing this beautiful and enigmatic yet fierce and powerful creature, and there’s little chance that you’ll make the same mistake again.  In fact, legend has it that Manny Pacquiao learned everything he knows from his ex-girlfriend!

Jonathan and Kach with Manny Pacquiao

So there you have it, everything I’ve learned through our fourteen incredible months together.  All I can say is this – Whether it be fried pork for breakfast, questionable singing or seemingly ridiculous levels of bargaining, I wouldn’t change a single thing!

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55 thoughts on “6 Signs That You’re in a Long-Term Relationship with a Filipina! (By a converted Englishman)

    1. Actually, there have been studies done of divorce between ethnic groups in the USA. The one with the lowest, was Filipinas married to American men. Apparently they’re MORE loyal than American women.

  1. Thanks for appreciating a character of a real filipina, Godbless you and your filipina girlfriend 😉

  2. This article made me smile. I reckon my English boyfriend read an article similar to this, and excitedly told me about it. He said: “yes, that’s what my Filipina girlfriend values too” and kept telling me how lucky he is for having me. Not bragging, but I could say we’re both blessed to have found each other. I love him to bits and vowed to make him the happiest person on earth. This is his 2nd time to the Phillipines and I’m so excited to spend the rest of my life with him soon. I’m so happy for both you. Good reads.

  3. Good read. Thanks Jon for all the complimemts for us Filipina women ??? We are indeed one of the most incredible creatures lol Most caring ang loving! Happy you found your better half in Philippine soil. All the best for the both of yous x

    1. Matthew, Thanks for your appreciation of us, Filipinas! Why, you can always have a chance, I can help you find one!n

  4. You are so right about the openness and friendliness of the Filipinos. When I was there last Oct/Nov for the first time I was really taken aback by the politeness and warmth of the people. The Acceptance of my Finance’s family of this strange white guy their daughter drug home. My Fiancee treats me like a king yes and I treat her like the Queen of the Universe, well my universe. I love my Filipina very much and like you look forward to adventuring the world with her. Spot on article!

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Written by Jonathan Howe

Jon is the Old White Monkey. Born in the south of England, Jon spent much of his early childhood in Kenya and Malawi, before moving to the Lake District in North West England aged 13 where he acquired a northern accent and a love for lakes, mountains, waterfalls, black pudding and gravy! After 14 years of studying and working in various (very various!) jobs, he too felt the need to get out and see the rest of the world. He loves tropical beaches, surfing, hiking, the outdoors, yoga, adventure sports and motorbikes!

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