6 Signs That You’re in a Long-Term Relationship with a Filipina! (By a converted Englishman)
Being from the United Kingdom, you inevitably become accustomed to Western ways and of course, in turn, Western women.
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Having left Britain some time ago and has now been with Kach for almost two years, I thought I’d reflect on some of the finer points of being in a relationship with a Filipina and some of the personal changes you go through in the process. I hope you enjoy the experience as much as I have!
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Table of Contents
Insane Hospitality
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Filipinos are well-known for being some of the warmest and most welcoming people on the planet, and this part of the culture is starting to wear through your cynical and suspicious Western skin. You find yourself inviting complete strangers into your home and cooking them enough food to feed a small village for a week! Try the Kare Kare, it’s incredible!
Carnivore Heaven
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One of the best things about the Philippines is the food. The blend of Hispanic, Chinese, and American cuisines has created a unique fusion of flavors that can’t be found anywhere else in the world. The key ingredient of almost every meal is meat, no matter what time of day! Deep-Fried Pork with Deep Fried Beef and Deep Fried Rice (Kach’s Garlic rice!) has become your staple breakfast. In fact, you have terrible mood swings if you haven’t eaten half a pig and a kilo of rice by 9 am!
Karaoke
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We all love to shout out Bon Jovi’s Living on a Prayer with our friends when we’ve had a few drinks, but now you’ve reached a new level – The Filipino. You can smell a microphone from a hundred meters away and will fight to the death for a can of Red Horse beer and the chance to sing Pusong Bato in front of fifty strangers!
The Bargain
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Haggling is no longer something you do at markets for a bit of fun as you’re traveling around, for the satisfaction of getting a slightly reduced price on some tourist souvenirs. Everything is now a potential discount, no matter how small. You will happily spend half an hour trying to negotiate 5 cents off the price of an apple and openly celebrate your victory upon completion of the deal!
You don’t want the apple…It was never about the apple.
King in Your Own Home
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It’s a well-trodden stereotype that Asian women treat their men like kings and this is certainly true of Filipinas. However, let it be crystal clear that this is not the same as subservient; far from it as we will shortly find out. You have however become accustomed to lovingly prepared home-cooked meals every day and regular massages – not because you asked, or she feels she has to, but because she wants to.
A Woman Scorned
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As touched upon in the previous point, don’t think for a second that the loving and caring nature of the Filipina means that she will tolerate you being a shit boyfriend. As a seasoned veteran, you have long-since learned the dire consequence of crossing this beautiful and enigmatic yet fierce and powerful creature, and there’s little chance that you’ll make the same mistake again. In fact, legend has it that Manny Pacquiao learned everything he knows from his ex-girlfriend!
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So there you have it, everything I’ve learned through our fourteen incredible months together. All I can say is this – Whether it be fried pork for breakfast, questionable singing or seemingly ridiculous levels of bargaining, I wouldn’t change a single thing!
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When your money is gone so are you 🙂 Everyone loves a foreigner until the money runs out …
Actually, there have been studies done of divorce between ethnic groups in the USA. The one with the lowest, was Filipinas married to American men. Apparently they’re MORE loyal than American women.
The #1 sign is… Your bank account is now empty
God is an Englishman and Filipinas are great.Theyare the most beautiful women in the world.
Thanks for appreciating a character of a real filipina, Godbless you and your filipina girlfriend 😉
Yes! She’s really amazing! God bless you too Yanzie
This article made me smile. I reckon my English boyfriend read an article similar to this, and excitedly told me about it. He said: “yes, that’s what my Filipina girlfriend values too” and kept telling me how lucky he is for having me. Not bragging, but I could say we’re both blessed to have found each other. I love him to bits and vowed to make him the happiest person on earth. This is his 2nd time to the Phillipines and I’m so excited to spend the rest of my life with him soon. I’m so happy for both you. Good reads.
That’s really sweet Jessica. we’re so happy for you! How was your vacation this time?
good read indeed. double thumbs up!!!!
Thank you milesd 🙂
Sweet, kilig much…..
Hehehe! Thanks Jen!
Good read. Thanks Jon for all the complimemts for us Filipina women ??? We are indeed one of the most incredible creatures lol Most caring ang loving! Happy you found your better half in Philippine soil. All the best for the both of yous x
Yes! Really happy to finally find someone who completes me.
I LOOOOOVE Filipinas very special one of a kind . I WISH I HAD settled down with one
Matthew, Thanks for your appreciation of us, Filipinas! Why, you can always have a chance, I can help you find one!n
Funny as it may sound but i wish to havw a talk 🙂
You will in Gods perfect timing 😉
I bet you have a wife who now wishes you had too.
So true!?
Absolutely 🙂
You are so right about the openness and friendliness of the Filipinos. When I was there last Oct/Nov for the first time I was really taken aback by the politeness and warmth of the people. The Acceptance of my Finance’s family of this strange white guy their daughter drug home. My Fiancee treats me like a king yes and I treat her like the Queen of the Universe, well my universe. I love my Filipina very much and like you look forward to adventuring the world with her. Spot on article!
That’s really great Bruce 🙂 Really happy for you and Congratulations!
??????speechless!!!
Thank you for reading this Annie 🙂
awww this is luv! XXX
Yes! Thanks Masi 🙂
Thanks for this Jon! A breath of fresh air^^
Thanks 🙂
Yayy the very inspiring and cute couple….love is in the air….so sweet 🙂 <3
hehhe! Thanks Jocelyn!! <3
I’m Filipina and my boyfriend’s Italian/Czech (his name is also Jonathan!) He’s originally from Ohio but we are now both based in California.. and we have a trip planned to the PH this August!! Coming across your blog makes me even more excited to show him around back home.. I agree it’s a very rich culture I’m proud of, I’m sure it will be a great adventure.. Especially since he hasn’t been in Asia before!
Yay! That’s really great Kixie 🙂 so how’s your trip to the Philippines? Just visited there last Feb for the first time and its really amazing.
I must say all my Filipino friends are lovely. They were so keen to show me around parts of Manila & Quezon City. I was in Quezon City for 6 days. I have several Friends who are from The Philippines, I was even invited to the wedding of one of them who came to live in London. There are many more I hope to meet up with one day. I also know how difficul life is for so many in their own country. Kach Sounds a lovely person , and she is so adventurous , you are in deed a lucky man Jonathan. I wish you both so much happiness.
She really is Chris. so thankful that we crossed paths.
My filipina wife and i have been married now for 7 glorious years. I had to laugh about the kareoke. I have never been happier in my life. If she gets mad I get the silent treatment…lol. I hope to retire to the Philippines. I love it there.
Congratulations Chic! What’s your favorite Karaoke song? haha! <3
legend has it that Manny Pacquiao learned everything he knows from his ex-girlfriend! LOLed hard here! i bet hes still learning from Jinky!
hehehe! I bet so Nina! =)
Been going out with a filipina for a week. It took us 2 years of just talking to get here. Simply put she is gold
Congratulations Neilo!! =)
your story is featured on rappler. While i was reading it, i can’t help but giggle because what you observed are in fact a typical description of a filipino woman and family. well good luck and best regards to both of you.
Thank you so much Robert!!
haha! funny but true.. totally relate! Filipina here about to get married to an Irishman.. can’t wait to share this blog to my fiance! 😀
All the best to you Kach and Jon!!! X
Hello Andrea, oh Irish have sexier accent! yay! =) Congratulations in advance on your wedding! x
Your story lifted up my spirit! And now planning to set my goal again for travelling! Ohhh yes we filipinos are loving, hospitable and list go on, but not a heck to foul araound 🙂 yes you have been warned haha. You two are awesome! Wishing all good for both of you! Cao
Hola Anya, thanks for this!! He already knows what will happen to him, threatened him many times!! hahaha =) Go start travelling and feel free to message us anytime!X
I have lot of friends who are now married to foreigners. All of ’em met while travelling. Ahhh, love really! 😀
Yay! Love moves in mysterious ways! x
Have often heard of compliments about us Filipina but this one is just too cute the way it’s written. Just one thing – he forgot to write how simply beautiful Filipino women are because clearly he has one! 😀
Thanks Mitch!! =)
This is super adorable. I especially laughed out loud on the Karaoke part! (Too true, haha!) You guys seem great together, to more miles and freelance work! ☺️
Cheers,
M
M, thanks! i was surprised when he wrote that! hahah =) Thank you again, more on pinoy na sya! x
ohhhhhhh so cute, i wish you guys many more years of happiness together and on the road. Nice new look by the way
Yay!!Thank you Jameela! We’re finally able to move it to wordpress, have to do a few tweaks with the design so we can finally able to publish some of our pending articles! yay!